Let yourself be reminded of who you are and don't waste one moment on someone who doesn't value you. . .I was checking my TL on various SM platforms and had this simple thought, 'I have to accept the fact that I am traditional in nature...modern in some aspects of my thought process, but yeah, pretty much, 'wise souled'. The way the dating scene works these days appears to be a bit too materialistic, microwaveable, and heartless for me, leaving little to be desired, and ultimately it forces me to embrace contentment in a new way.
The best relationship I can have is one with myself and I prefer to me a whole woman with a whole man (these days, its not impossible, but rare), I've lived that fragmented life. . .that 'save people' life. . .that unriciprocated life. . .that "him having sex with other women in the house while I lived with him as a sign to break up" kinda life..(yeah peeps, I've seen it all!). In this season though, I am finding that my prayers are being answered LEFT & RIGHT!!! "Keep away those who mean me no good and draw near to me His perfect will for me". . .Truly, it has a slight 'really' attached to it at 1st but REJECTION NEVER FELT SO GOOD once the dust settles because if it ain't right, I'd much rather pass on friends, a man, opportunities, or anything else not geared toward God's best for me (and I have). I respect people who only rely on themselves but I believe God because the world is bigger than any man, as well as its challenges, and you can fight better when your faith is in something bigger than you, your challenges, etc. If you truly ask yourself the right question, and I havd recently asked myself this one, "My goal is ALWAYS to add value to those I meet, to build them up SO, If this person has no goal to add value to my life, why do I need to entertain the thought?" Surely if we ask ourselves the right questions, the answered revealed helps to establish healthier interactions overall.
Work is filled with ways to grow and reasons to see myself differently, better than I imagined. I'm watching my hard work materialize into something larger than me, that's really cool. I have seen many businesses thrive and been instrumental but there is nothing like being able to ride something through the long haul. . .my loyalty won't allow anything less. I realize my intensity to win has changed, my tolerance for mediocrity is closer to zero than I ever expected. . .feeling 'sharper' and more aware. My friendships are thriving and what a wonderful feeling to be surrounded by people in every facet of my life who see me. . .just as I am, and love me still. Because in fact, I am worthy of love and over the next 30 days, I will be reciting affirmations designed to help develop my mindset. . .this is my way of 'choosing me'. I am learning how to embody the truest form of myself which in itself is empowering. I am finding my voice and loving the sound of it. . .my soul rejoices as I take chances I otherwise wouldn't. I guess I have always just went after what I wanted but finding myself feeling honored and almost humbled when people see enough value in me to graciously pursue me. I support people without question and love them beyond themselves so, a two way street is a good street to be on.
My faith is soo solid because God has been the number one most consistent thing in my life. . . people come and go, they change up on you, blame you for their faults, insecurities, and warped thinking, celebrate you one second, call you a queen, then throw shade the next minute, tell you they wish they could do more for you, then establish boundaries to do less for you, people run from you, push you away, resent your swag, envy your struggle, then tell you to get over it, magnify their co-dependence, and shade you at every opportunity to 'one up'. . . .But God is 💯 percent faithful, always available, forgiving, powerful, and everything I need to bypass the BS of this world - I just smile, know the truth, and keep right on stepping in my authority. I'm soo grateful for the gifts God has given me, I can see the bold faced lie on the best manipulators faces and still I love; that alone is a gift! The ability to love is a gift. I am honored even by the challenges God allows me to face because my 'better' is not just on the surface, its through and through. It may take some time and I may kick and scream along the way, but God is doing a new thing and I am SOOO glad He is. Regal living is authentic living. We are more resilient in our ability to encourage, edify, and uplift each other. Share some of your Gut Checks in the comments below. I'm Speak Resilience and til next time, as always Peeps, its been REAL. #Queenliving #patience #authenticjoy #mightystrength #love #equipped #Truestory #SpeakResilience