This statement could not be more true. I have always enjoyed transparency because the more 'real' you are about life, the more opportunity you have to just grow; hopefully helping those around you, do the same. You will never be able to change someone's perception of you, especially with people who barely know you, hardly talk to you, or feel compelled to judge you because of a post on social media - that is just modern day, 'life'. The fact remains that there is a such thing as using discretion as you see fit and executing the proper amount of 'emotional intelligence', relevant to every relational interaction in life. Healthy confession and execution of long-lasting relationships just requires that you care about people, be vulnerable with people, be willing to admit faults by confronting imperfection with a tangible game plan of sustainable growth. I feel sorry for people who secretly phoney kick-it and live in captivity of their own lies of candy land; too much candy can ruin your teeth. There are too many people who need to fix their mess without authenticity and transparency and in the end, it only leads to a deeper level of captivity for your soul. When you are honest about your mess, it leaves room for it to be repaired once and for all - instead of having to revisit the same mess in different ways. The funny thing is, usually everyone can see your mess but you, it's almost as though we are all in display windows of our lives and only the spectators can see the full picture. That is why it helps to be surrounded by people who really love you and are not afraid to not only tell you where you've gone wrong, but will lovingly show you how to make it right. During the journey of entering fame and recognition, there are lots of people who will be your 'friend', give you a 'poke' and say those sweet three words to make you feel mushy inside. Very few people know your journey well enough to form a concise, thorough opinion, filled with grace, humility and transparency.
Toseima J is the author of this blog. The type of person who looks forward to encouraging those around her. This blog is dedicated to the stories, experiences, and people who help make us all better, stronger, and wiser in all the ways God intended. SPEAK RESILIENCE is a blog that will certainly encourage, inspire, and uplift you; no matter how you pray, how you live, or who you choose to be in your life! Thank you for stopping by, sharing, and posting your comments. Knowing you are here, matters; you matter.