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If you believe it, you can achieve it.
I’m Grateful to have those in my life who believe in me, celebrate me without judgment, and without placing their own unspoken expectations, negative perceptions, and personal insecurities on my life journey. God is faithful to send friends who ‘get me’. Selah
I’m grateful for those who offer as much grace for me as they do for themselves and those they hold dear. I’m grateful that I serve a God of more than enough because even with all that… with a man, fiancé, husband and without a man, fiancé, husband: as long as I’ve got King Jesus, I don’t need nobody else.
When a person becomes your God, you can’t see life without them. You spend months, years, etc. navigating through every detail of loss. When God becomes your God, you only want God’s best for you and that is the TRUE flex, I promise.
What comes from God is not without challenge, character building, and opportunities to stretch your faith. It’s always interesting when I hear the idea that ‘everything from God is filled with peace’. Forgive my ‘all caps passion’ here but I strongly believe that our relationship with God is what takes ANY CHALLENGE and circumstance and fills it with peace FIRST. Every response starts with that relationship and all of them takes work.
If we don’t have the faith in our relationship with God to put that to work when trials hit, how can we blame others for the lack of peace we choose not to reflect?
Peace is a choice and that choice has nothing to do with anyone outside of your faith relationship. If a person is the source of your peace, when they leave, they take your peace with them. How are people unable to function and continue forward with life after loss? It’s not always easy, but it is always relative. Some people can’t move on and some can.
If you detach emotionally from someone without them knowing it, you have given yourself a head start to moving on without them. But you get out first and justify the reasons in order to offer a safe exit for your feelings. People like to call it self-preservation.
If you genuinely love someone, you have to love God first. You then learn how to love someone for who they are and without resentment. You learn the flaws are a part of the imperfect way we have been called to love. I would never wish trauma on anyone. Although 1 out of 4 people experience sexual abuse and according to the trauma stress disorder fact sheet, “An estimated 70 percent of adults in the United States have experienced a traumatic event at least once in their lives…”
Trauma is not uncommon however our ability to address it, discuss the symptoms, responses, and coping options is DEFINITELY uncommon.
A decision to remain single can be a coping strategy. The idea of losing oneself and expecting others to take care of us can be a coping strategy. I am excited to explore the realities of trauma. Not for the benefit of anything except to help others truly see the best version of themselves; and not through the eyes of those who claim to love us, but the true love we see in ourselves.
Although the nature of this journey is not ‘religious’ in nature, I will carry my personal journey with me in faith I welcome you to carry yours as well. I believe faith based relationships teaches true love but selfish love is all any of us know from the start. If we all have to be taught to share toys as children but don’t learn to share love, why are we confused when people share their whole heart. It is my assertion that majority of our heart belongs in a faith based capacity in the first place.
Love deficit teaches us to give too much of ourselves. Filling voids that others leave behind. Ignoring our childhood trauma only lays dormant until the opportunity presents itself for a safe release; unexpected, relentless, filled to the top pain that cannot be controlled.
Love deficit is a real thing in the lives of many people. Mark it down because it will come back around. What does love REALLY look like? Does it look gooey and messy? Organized and Neat? Appearance driven and financially sound?
I would ask one simple question, how much of your peace have you unknowingly decided to make someone else’s responsibility?
There are people in this world who will love you as you are so why spend your time grieving those who don’t? It means you are continuing to lie to yourself about what is possible. Give yourself a narrative that doesn’t exist. If you are ‘the one’, may God reveal it, heal it, and establish opportunity to embody that purpose.
When our pride, how others view us, and the ego governs life decisions, it is not the faith-based peace in relationships that drives us, it is people.
Freedom from the world’s narrative is real. I appreciate being on the minds of people, that they think highly enough of me to have me on their minds. Even still, it is ONLY God who determines my destiny and thank goodness because I will never understand those who don’t want to see people win in life. You know who I’m talking about…. those who are relentlessly in pursuit of unhappiness, gossip, and drama, like it’s a part-time job! Some of you are reading this post, choosing not to ❤️ it, and talking about it later instead of celebrating the truth of what it reflects.
I love people and still, there will never be a person alive or dead who will stifle me living my best life at all times. It’s not personal, it’s the non wasted time for me - It’s a lifestyle decision. I hope you are making your own set of decisions that govern your faith relationship based peace.
That is all. Carry on.
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