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Lately, I’ve been posting ‘transparency moments’ which involves me with no make-up / filter, fresh from a workout, being vulnerable about topics I have personally had to navigate through or those that have inspired me.
People who know me know I love fashion and a good outfit I create makes me feel beautiful - which I’ve been doing ever since I had the power to dress myself, with the superlatives from high school, college, modeling, etc. ‘best dressed’ this and that - it’s a thing.
Even still, these transparency moments have taught me what beauty ACTUALLY looks like, feels like, and the impact on the soul. Anyway, I find that if people cannot control you, if they can’t navigate your life, your actions, and your words - every thing you do is in question.
Based on who’s standard do you live your life? Your own or the one the world tells you is acceptable? I know because out of my own pain, I attempted to control others as well and I lived underneath the words people spoke over me instead of the words I speak myself - based on the words God gives me. That is one reason the platform was born.
We all pretend there is no elephant in the room, then become upset when someone speaks up. I don’t know about you but I am thankful that God healed me from some things and is still healing me from some things.
The conversations I have been having about Twitch since his death have prompted moments when it matters to simply SPEAK UP! I thought about two people that were close to me, commit suicide and how it affected me at that time. Moments navigating through my own trauma has forced me to speak up.
If more people speak up, less people would be suicidal, navigating mental health with unhealthy practices, and less people would be ignorant about it. Less people would be blaming folks for mental health and treating it more like Cancer of the mind. Helping them develop a manual that works for them instead of rejecting and deserting them.
If more people were having the conversations connected to healed understanding, instead of allowing your personal mental health to be impacted by someone else’s trauma, you would recognize it and not make their challenges about you.
Here’s my point: everyone responds to pain differently so if someone is acting out, we often just disassociate instead of asking the question, why? Nobody cares why? though right, that is the problem. Then the people end up dead, on drugs, alcoholics, suicidal, and a number of other challenges associated with unhealthy practices - THEN we want to speak about them but the signs are clear, if we care enough to pay attention.
I would challenge that the person behaving waywardly doesn’t care because very few have challenged them for their motivation. Very few paid attention during the early signs so after a while that ‘nobody cares anyway’ behavior shows up. The person observing the wayward behavior simply enters the ‘room of smh’, feeling ashamed, embarrassed, and offers their judgment instead of their help, prayers, honest feedback, or options for healthy help.
More people would know how to effectively love and support people who navigate mental health.
Lots of people want to help but don’t know how. Lots of people feel helpless in allowing someone to navigate the journey themselves and many people misunderstand what support looks like.
More people would be loved. More people would be getting the help they need. More people would learn to make themselves their safe space so they can be safe for those around them.
Sincerely, Toseima J - Known as Speak Resilience.
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